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Quote from the book: This will come as a surprise to some, but many people do not experience attraction "spontaneously" and their desire is not "highly reactive." It is more purposeful and does not arise instantly; the mood appears gradually. For such people, attraction is not the first feeling, but the second, third or fourth. Experts call this type of sexual desire "stimulated". Those in whom it is inherent respond to sexual signals differently than those in whom the drive is unconditional. A person with stimulated drive needs several cues to stimulate arousal. That's not to say they don't understand them—they see them as something sexual and sensual, but the cues don't trigger arousal with the same force as people with spontaneous attraction.